How was your Valentine’s weekend?

I don’t know how much I believe in Saint Valentine, but I do believe in love.

Deeply. 

Love isn’t just romance—it’s an energy, an action, a frequency. 

It moves forward. It’s clear, intentional, and assertive.

And while love is about both giving and receiving, today, let’s talk about receiving.

Because if you’re reading this, I have a feeling you’re someone who knows how to give. 

You give so much (to your family, your friends, your work) that before you know it, you look up and there’s nothing left for you to give yourself.

Sound familiar?

For so many of us, receiving is the challenge.

Letting love in. 

Lowering our walls. 

Saying yes to support, rest, and care….from others and from ourselves.

Receiving is particularly important for women, who by design are built to receive.

Our resistance to receiving is resistance to the very essence of our Feminine Divinity.

Why does this matter for self-care?

Because self-care, just like love, is an action and an energy. 

And to truly practice either one, you have to let yourself be on the receiving side….not just the giving side of the equation.

If receiving love from others feels uncomfortable, chances are receiving love from yourself does too.

So, what does receiving love from yourself actually look like?
- Making time for your self-care instead of putting everything else first
- Including your well-being in your decisions—not just time, price, or convenience
- Saying YES to the thing you desire, even if it feels scary
- Resting, reflecting, and being still instead of always checking off the next task
- Doing one thing at a time instead of constantly multitasking

Does any of this resonate?

For some of us, the blessings we desire cannot be received because we stubbornly won’t move from the giving side of the equation.

And for many of us, we are actually running back and forth giving to many different equations…friends, family, work, church, etc.

Sis, please hear me when I say this,

Our blessings aren’t going to chase us.  

Yes, everything we desire, desires us back, but if we are a moving target it’s hard for them to catch up.

That deep down, in your bones, soul level love that you are looking for is waiting for you to be still enough to pour into you.

Your self-care practice ARE those moments of stillness where the love we are seeking is being given to us.

YOU are the giver and the receiver.

So, let Valentine’s day be the beginning of a beautiful love affair…with receiving.

The perfect gift to celebrate this new relationship is our ‘Self-Care is Self-Love Digital Care Package’ or our ‘Black History Month Self-Love Digital Care Package’.  Both come complete with a ‘Self-Love Letter Template’ for you to fill in the blanks on showing your self love and appreciation.  And they also come with a ‘High Vibe Self-Love Playlist’ that you can listen to while writing your letter.  Just set the mood by getting your most cozy clothes on, curl up in your favorite place, dim the lights, light some candles and/or fire and love on yourself.

With love,

Cassandra

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